Loving What Is – Non-attachment
One fact of life is that attachment leads to suffering. To the degree that we are attached to a particular outcome, we are also setting ourselves up for possible disappointment, heartbreak, or unfathomable grief. Yet, living fully entails attachment to people you love so in this sense, suffering is part of the human experience.
We know our minds create our reality. Our thoughts and actions are products of our beliefs. The mind also creates our emotions, including anger, fear, happiness, sadness or frustration. Our attachments to people, things and beliefs make us feel vulnerable when they fail to meet our expectations. This can trigger powerful reactions in us. However, once we let go of the need to control our lives and influence others, we will become less reactive about the situations and circumstances swirling around us, and ultimately this can lead to greater inner peace and freedom. The more peaceful we become, the less we are dependent upon others to help us feel good about ourselves. The less needy we are for others “to make us feel whole,” the more appealing we become.
Even in the midst of everything life brings us, we can find peace. This is how you can limit and lessen the amount of suffering you will endure. You don’t have to allow yourself to be so attached to your ideas and opinions, or the perception of others about you. You don’t have to allow yourself to be so attached to being “right,” or winning every argument, or having the last word or being seen as flawless and infallible. Remember that you always have the choice to consciously practice non-attachment, openness and curiosity as you move through life. Rather than grasping, controlling, manipulating and resisting, just stay present and allow things to unfold naturally. This will particularly come in handy when entering a new relationship whether it is a romantic endeavor, a new friend, or a potential business partner. Open yourself up to the experience of getting to know someone without projecting your expectations and ideals that may or may not be true. Just be receptive, awake and aware of your internal process and trust that whatever is happening to us and through us from day to day, is exactly what needs to be happening for our spiritual evolution and growth. Trust that the universe has everything in divine order for our highest good.
If you want more joy and less conflict, you have to be able to shift your awareness in how you look at your life. When you place a lot of importance on what others do and say, then you are not in the power seat. Circumstances and other external factors are… You cannot control, dictate or predict what other people will say, think, feel, do, want or need BUT what you have full control over is yourself and this is where the power lies. You cannot pick and choose the experiences life is going to put on your path but you can absolutely choose how you want to respond to the cards that you have been dealt.
With that being said, to love what is, you need to start by cultivating peace and love, and this is an inside out job. Enjoy the inner journey, as difficult and painful as it may be. Through the regular practice of quieting, grounding and centering yourself, you can connect to your innate health and your true nature, which is whole, perfect and abundant in love. Accepting others, accepting situations and accepting life as it is emanates that love and enables us to feel deeply connected, compassionate and peaceful.
Allow this message to settle into the deepest recesses of your consciousness.