Most of the stories are about a prince saving a princess, and then the couple living happily ever after. I find it very difficult to finish these books, and when I do, I usually make up a different ending where the prince and princess face some challenges and work together to solve their problems and issues, which makes their love and connection even stronger and deeper, because, honestly, the stories we’ve been telling ourselves are simply untrue. They’re set-ups. And we do it all day long. We are taught that we have to compete to survive. We are taught that we don’t look right or feel right. We are sold on the idea that if we can just get it together and make enough money and diet enough, and look good enough, and live in the “right house” and drive the “right car,” and eat at the “right places,” and work out enough, and get ourselves to make everything on the outside as perfect and shiny as possible, we’ll meet the “right” person, and then ̶ and only then ̶ we will be happy and everything will be perfect! And this is the stuff we grow up on, and feed ourselves and our children. The truth is, those stories are what keep us trapped and miserable.
One of life’s truths is that what you focus on expands. It’s a natural law. So, unless you were home-schooled, or your parents kept you away from television and radio and fairy tales with highly improbable endings, or you grew up in some nirvana where these things didn’t exist (let me know where that is if you did), at a certain point, you are just bound to come up against the comparisons and the hedonic treadmill. Rather than looking inward into what lights us up, our societies, our families, and (unfortunately) our thinking are conditioned in a way where the pursuit of happiness is like a person running on a treadmill; he has to keep working and running and “upgrading” the externals to stay in the same place. The truth is, anyone can do all that stuff. You can live in a huge house, and drive an expensive car, and meet an amazing person who is just right for you, and have the “perfect body,” but if you are not happy on the inside, and if you have not figured out that you are here to spread love and kindness, and if you don’t know what your passion or purpose is on this planet, you will still be miserable, because there’s a void when we are not living in a truthful way. There is a void when who you are is based on what you have. The void can be filled temporarily with any of those highly coveted items and externals from the above list, but the feeling of satisfaction, contentment, elation, and “rightness” won’t last too long. I am absolutely sure about that. YOU are the right person, just the way you are, and you have what it takes to be happy, if you look inside! When you do what you love, energy and prosperity flow in every way.
It’s much easier to think that if you work hard enough and stop sucking so much, then you’ll be happy. Thinking like that gives you something to do; some sense of control; a goal to work toward. That’s a lot easier to deal with than the reality that life is full of big questions with which you will have to wrestle if you want to be at peace; that nothing is certain in this life; and that one day you will die. The most common limiting beliefs focus on money and worth. So many people tell themselves they can’t make a living doing what they love or that their dream is just out of reach: “It is really not meant to be.” But the truth is, when you hold some part of yourself in reserve, you severely limit what life can bring to you and what you can give to life. Abundance flows when you are centered in the awareness that your true self is pure spirit, unbounded in time and space. Spirit doesn’t place limits on your joy, prosperity, and fulfillment, and spirit does not expect you to accomplish goals and judge you based on your successes and failures.
(to be continued)